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10 Things in 1 Year

September 26th marked my one year in New York City. What a year it has been. The past thirteen months have been by far and away the craziest, challenging and most interesting year of my life. Through taking a break from writing here, I have been able to develop my voice and figure out what direction I want to take this good old blog. Additionally, writing is a skill that must always be practiced, and I don't want to have my degree go to waste. Here are ten things I have learned in the past year of working and living in NYC:

Learning“The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap! I promise you! It's just crap that people try to sell to you to make you feel like less. So don't buy it. Be smart, be thoughtful, and be generous.” I think about this Ashton Kutcher quote a lot from a few years back. Admittedly, living in a bubble at Bucknell and camp over the summer, I didn't pay a ton of attention to the news and what was going on. While it can be needed and relaxing, it's also always good to have a real answer when someone asks what you've been reading. Additionally, learn from every experience and person you meet- good, bad and ugly. 

Self Awareness | Since January 1st, I have been keeping a journal. While I wonder if I will eventually burn the whole thing, it's also something that I know will be invaluable some day in the future. My boyfriend Luc is very good at calling me out when I am making a mistake, and I do the same with him. Having a friend, parent or significant other to lean on prevents you from becoming a jerk. People will always remember how they felt around you, and adulthood is the time to think of others. 

Organization | Somewhere in the middle of college, I started to become a neater person, and over the past year, it has become essential. Making the bed, doing the dishes, the whole thing. 

Relationships + Friends | I have learned a lot about what it means to have important people in life. Family is everything and no matter how many times I may call my mom, she always answers and listens, and for that, I am truly grateful. Close friends from childhood and college are to be cherished, even when they are far away. Additionally, if you don't really care to know what your high school acquaintance is doing on an everyday basis, that's ok to unfollow them too. 

Growing Up | It's inevitable and I am learning more that it takes time to settle things after college. Everyone goes through the adulthood transition in their own way. No one is judging you for paying a mortgage for a windowless bedroom, so you shouldn't judge them either. 

Time | I wish I had as much free time as I did at Bucknell- or at least that someone would have properly warned me about that?

Money | It's easy to spend money in New York, but knowing that you have more than $20 in your bank account is a lot more satisfying. You probably didn't learn nearly enough about finance, so you're gonna have to do the work yourself. 

Kindness | In high school, one of my friend Olivia, who is still my pen pal today always said hi to everyone. I remember admiring that and tried to do that more. People who work at Starbucks taking coffee orders all day, co-workers and especially people in a lower job title deserve kindness and respect the most. 

Death | This year, I experienced the first real death in my family. My grandfather died in January, and with that came a lot of changes in our family. While it was sad and still sometimes gets to me, I am so grateful that I was able to live into my 20's with him actively in my life. It also serves as a reminder that most of the stuff we deal with everyday doesn't matter. A lot of crappy things may happen to you in a day, but you are alive and here. My grandfather loved nothing more than slathering on baby oil, turning on the radio and sitting in the sun to fry. This is not recommended, and he did not get any skin illness (thank god) but it's all about the little things in life. 

Integrity | Integrity is everything. Reputation is everything. Without it, we are nothing- may be dramatic, but it's truth. Working in an environment where many politicians (on both sides of the aisle) have compromised their integrity, I have seen firsthand the destruction. 

Ending the post on an upbeat note, but will be back very soon (promise) with more!

4 Podcasts I Love

I'm sorry for writing such a millennial post, but it had to be done. To be honest, I am not the biggest T.V. and movie person and would much rather watch a short online video, read or listen to a podcast (in addition to watching episodes of The Office on in the background). In traveling for work/summer the past couple of months, I have found myself on the Apple podcast app frequently. 

A good podcast requires a lot of elements to work in unison- a good "shtick," quality guests, engaging topics and a good dynamic between hosts. These are some of my personal favorites- I hope you enjoy them as much as I have!

The Daily | This is a podcast produced by the New York Times daily that discusses one major news topic per episode in roughly 20 minutes. The Daily is one of the most popular news podcasts out there, for good reason. The host is interesting without taking away from the journalism- in my opinion, this is the most accessible, interesting way to understand what is going on, and can be done during my commute. 

TMG Podcast/Insanely Chill  | Cody and Noel are hilarious and Cody Ko may be one of the only people I can listen talk for 45 minutes solo about life. This is definitely the guilty pleasure of the bunch, and a great way to block out the world. 

In Line with AmeriBerry | Pretty typical formula of two friends, Sara and Katherine, who are also recent graduates. I love this one for the topics especially, ranging from consumerism to social media. 

51 First DatesThis was the podcast that got me hooked at the beginning of the year. Hosts Liza and Kimmy discuss dating as a late 20's/early 30's woman as Kimmy embarks on going on 51 first dates weekly throughout the year. 

Have a great weekend!

A Note on Reliance

Note: I would like to preface with the fact that these are the experiences of one person, who despite having struggles and challenges here and there is very lucky. Part of this platform is to keep logs of the present day, and these are mine. 

It's been a little over a year since graduating college and the past year has been by far the most challenging year of my life. It was a perfect storm of a lot of changes at once, combined by bad timing and generally dealing with growing up very quickly from a small college town. One of the hardest parts of finishing school is experiencing the feeling of finishing something that you've been working towards for over 20 years and realizing that you are only at the start of your "real life." Throw in a new environment and take away a roadmap and community you've been in for four years combined with life changes that happen as you get older (ie: a family move, death of grandparents ect.) and elements of a new life that most are fairly unprepared for (navigating finances, moving and a new schedule) can make things feel overwhelming at times. 

I have come to know the importance of making a community in the adult world. I may not have a million friends and have a much smaller, tighter group of friends than at Bucknell, but it works for me, and those people are my rocks and voice of reason. 

Of course, it's important to put things into perspective as well. Living in New York, it's easy to see that there are plenty of people who deal with issues that many of us cannot ever imagine. For example, this morning, after a long week and a day off, I found out that my wallet was left in my shopping cart because I was distracted last night while carrying 5 bags and being on the phone. I had a moment of crying on the phone to my mom, and tried to move on. However, at least I had a wallet to lose and the ability to replace everything within a week. It could be a big issue or something smaller, but also frustrating like losing a wallet and thinking that you can never catch a break (aka me a couple of hours ago). It's also really easy to think that where you are now is the only place you will ever be in your life. My boyfriend Luc, often reminds me that the problems now will be irrelevant in a year or two. 

Being young is often discounted as not knowing much, but I couldn't disagree more. I think being young and less established in the "real world" means being able to bring fresh prospective. We are a little less tainted by the establishments that slowly creep into adult life. I don't want to be jaded, and I hope you don't either. 

It's ok to struggle- and to ask for help when needed. What isn't is to not keep on going. Of course, for your own success, but also for anyone who may be looking to you for inspiration to succeed. It may mean having to call someone trusted and let it out. Something that has been extremely comforting is the knowledge that the transition to life after school is difficult for everyone. Everyone goes through sketchy apartments, difficult jobs and keeping financially afloat, whether they admit it or not. As long as we can lick our wounds and keep going, that's all that matters and come out better from it. {Image}

Hello Again!

Hello there! It's been a little while since I have posted a blog. The reality is (unfortunately) working full time, it's more difficult to keep up with hobbies from school. The past few months, any free time has been either exploring New York or going to the gym. However, I have always loved having a platform to post my writing. 

To be honest, some of the practices I have seen in typical lifestyle blogging I'd like to stay away from here- I'd like to stick to writing and photos for the most part. If you are a friend or family member who checks this space out, expect a blog a few times a week over the summer!

Have a great start to the weekend! I hope you are having a wonderful summer Friday.

Friday Eve Links

Woah- it's been a while since I've posted here. A lot has been happening since! While I do sometimes miss the flexibility of a college schedule, I am loving the perks of living in a big city (like having Trader Joe's nearby at all times). My job keeps me very busy- but in the best way! {Image}

New York |  Even though it does it sometimes kick you when you're down, I love living here and am so looking forward to the warmer weather. I'm really looking forward to a lot more runs and getting to see Central/Battery Park a bit more.  

Moving | It has been a long time coming, but Luc and I both finally have the keys to apartments downtown! I am living in the Financial District with two friends (including Soch, who has made cameos on here several times) and could not be more excited to have a shorter commute. Luc is living in a one bedroom in Little Italy. The process of finding our places, moving out and managing a six floor walk up have had their moments, but overall it's an exciting change!

Summer | I will be posting more on this soon, but there are some big changes happening in our family (good ones that I know of!) and this summer is going to be really exciting because of it! I am very fortunate to have a nice chunk of vacation and personal days, and will be tacking them on to a lot of weekend trips in the upcoming months.

I think this is the sweetest engagement video- I look up to Lucie a lot professionally and personally! 

Is anyone else into the polka dot trend? (I say "trend" but my mother would greatly disagree.)

I am obsessed with this podcast- it makes my Tuesday morning commute go by so quickly.